We were thinking about how to forgive few days ago; it was an interesting discussion and here is what I come up with:
When we think of a personal problem that we need to forgive; it's not easy to do so because our ego, our mind rationalise the problem with some 'if' and 'but' and all those good reasons that we feel betraid or hurt. We need to go beyond that, we need to put ourself in our heart and remind us that we are all one and we need to love instead of hate the person that caused our torments.
This is a difficult process I agree but we can do it; we need to dissolve those heavy chains that keeps us on the ground and in pain and let go in order to be able to fly again and to set us free.
Forgive and accept it how it is, we cannot change the past and we cannot live with it either.
There is no magical way to do it; it can and it will take some time but it's possible.
We all suffer from these kind of pain and in order to heal ourselves we have to forgive and be in peace in our heart.
When we think of a personal problem that we need to forgive; it's not easy to do so because our ego, our mind rationalise the problem with some 'if' and 'but' and all those good reasons that we feel betraid or hurt. We need to go beyond that, we need to put ourself in our heart and remind us that we are all one and we need to love instead of hate the person that caused our torments.
This is a difficult process I agree but we can do it; we need to dissolve those heavy chains that keeps us on the ground and in pain and let go in order to be able to fly again and to set us free.
Forgive and accept it how it is, we cannot change the past and we cannot live with it either.
There is no magical way to do it; it can and it will take some time but it's possible.
We all suffer from these kind of pain and in order to heal ourselves we have to forgive and be in peace in our heart.
[photo taken by my daughter - JUly 2010 Fly a kite]
Great post, Sybilline, very timely for me in my life. I can forgive most things, but in cases of painful victimization, I can't seem to get the forgiveness to stick.. I can say the words and it seems like I mean them, but then the angry or painful thoughts come back. I've tried cutting cords, the thoughts come back. I've tried asking for help from Angels, God, my higher self, the thoughts come back. I've tried putting a shield around myself, using the violet flame, healing the rips in my aura, journaling, being thankful for the experience, acknowledging the lessons, energy work and the thoughts come back. They're stuck somehow. I must be missing the key, but what is the key? Timing?
ReplyDeleteHi Laurie,
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and for your comment.
I am sorry that you have hard time with some bad souvenirs. As I said Forgive is different than accepted the fact; you can forgive the person but still not want this to happen anymore. You might want to add hypnosis and meditation to your list!! ;) Keep in mind that you might have been a victim but you are not a victim anymore; if you live in the now, those pain must be left in the past...
Time is certainly a factor in the process; One step at a time!...
XoXo ...May the 4th be with you ;)
Sybilline